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by RileyKyeden 3554 days ago
> Books can also reduce feelings of isolation and loneliness by exposing us to others' intimate thoughts about life, some of which will match up with things the reader may have thought were unique to them—and here's proof that those thoughts and feelings aren't just not unique, they're probably not even rare!

I had this happen reading this book: http://en.wikifur.com/wiki/Waterways

The main character described the experience of watching all his friends vanish as they started dating, feeling abandoned, wondering if something was wrong with him. It felt like a sick joke everyone was playing on me. I mentioned experiencing the same on Twitter (referencing the book), and the floodgates opened.

Apparently that's a very normal experience for gay people.
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mordocai 3554 days ago
> Apparently that's a very normal experience for gay people.

Not to invalidate this but I was under the impression that this is normal for a large majority of people in general, not just gay people.

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RileyKyeden 3554 days ago
A non-gay person probably interprets their isolation differently. It'd be "why can't I get laid like all my friends?," not "why don't I want to get laid like all my friends? Am I broken?" I had lots of offers, but I didn't want it from the people offering.

But that's my limited perspective as someone who's not hetero or bi. I could be wrong. I spent my first 29 years thinking everyone was making up the whole concept of attraction before I figured out what all those feelings I had for guys were.

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mordocai 3554 days ago
I readily admit it is probably different in the details but as said I was under the impression that the feeling of isolation and friends moving on etc was pretty normal across the board.
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RileyKyeden 3554 days ago
A person who rode a roller coaster and a person who survived a hungry lion experienced fear, but the details are what make the story. Being gay in the rural south is like facing a hungry lion.

From what I've read and heard, heterosexuality is like riding a roller coaster with a good safety record, and bisexuality is like riding the same roller coaster, but the other passengers are lions.

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