[kafkaesq]

This confirms with a lot of my observation, also. For example, the modern interview process has tricked interviewers into believing that (armed with the right set of questions and/or hoops to be jumped through), they can "size up" the candidate. When at very best, all you can "measure" is the intersection of your backgrounds.

And about preparation -- it's not so much that they ask pretentiously hard questions sometimes. It's that their own level of preparation, correctness of execution and general forethought will only very seldom even roughly match what they expect the candidate to deliver. As in, they screw up all the time -- everything from picking the problem to stating the problem to stating true expectations (these are basically almost never stated) -- to simply listening to another person's perspective on it... to just watching the clock and their body language and tact in general. Yet candidates are almost always expected to deliver near-flawlessly.

As to big companies: I've found the solid majority to be quite considerate about others as human beings, generally (abstract questions about their company's impact on society or the environment aside). But as a general rule, the larger the company, the more the "not giving a fuck about this company" measure approaches 1 - uniformly and geometrically.