[noobermin]

There is no "general advice" for "finding yourself", although that might not be what you asked. It's most likely also true for finding out what you want to do in life[0]. Figuring these things out is very personal and dependent on your personal history, and there are few general princples. If you feel you really need help, it might be beneficial to talk to a counselor who can provide more personalized help. There are few formulae that apply to all person's situations.

As an illustrating example, I don't know what you mean by "friendships are false." What do you mean by that? Do you have many acquaintances and no close friends or were you recently betrayed by someone whom you consider a close friend? This is something you need to sit down with someone else and talk about.

[0] With respect to this, many people say they don't know what they want to do until they do it, but then again, some people know from when they are 6 they want to be a doctor/scientist/professor and, lo and behold, that guides their life and they do it. It really depends on your personality and goals and that can only be weened out of a 1-on-1 conversation, IMO, again, very few general principles here.

[chowraid]

Thank you for your advice. "friendships are false" by that I mean; that my "friends" only need and ask for my help wen in deep trouble, and I don't feel they are asking the way as a favor. For some reason my "friends" seem fake.

[noobermin]

I perhaps might not be the best person to get advice from on this because I am an introvert (recently retook Myers-Briggs and it placed me as an moderate introvert, although in the past I've been at extreme). I have spent days at a time happily alone, not talking to anyone, so I care less about what others think compared to most people I know. I've learned to just say no when favors would drag on my resources and the situation isn't dire enough. I would suggest having similar boundaries.

It may be different for you though, you may want these people to like you or be your friend, so perhaps you can't do that?

Again, I suggest talking to a counselor who would probably have better experience dealing with different types of people.