[the_other]

I fail to see how contributing to a downvote is "hating to pile on the downvote-fest".

To defend my point a little: I invited them to consider their use of language, not tell them how to live their life.

I can tell you how I came to this view: I read around through philosophy, pop-psychology/self-help, nlp, linguistics, religion and science-fiction; I spoke with feminists; I spoke with trans-folk and their admirers; I looked at my assumptions as a younger person and found them wrong.

[blowski]

I agree with what you're saying, but I don't think this was the post to say it. It is possible to over-egg even the most valid arguments.