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by milesf 3590 days ago
I lost both my parents last year to cancer. Both were Christians, and so am I.

I know many people find Christianity and the subject of faith to be uncomfortable, even offensive. But that's because the Christian message _is_ offensive. It makes claims that exclude all other options, that evil is real and that we are responsible for it. To me, either the message is true or it isn't. There is no grey. Either Jesus Christ was a liar, a lunatic, a legend, or He is Lord God Almight.

Penn Jillette, the famous atheist and half of Penn and Teller had it right, that if we removed all the scientific research in the world we would be able to rebuild it all, but religions would be all different. I agree with him, and so does the Bible. It says that God reached down to us, delivered messages in ways that statistically rule out purely human effort, and gave us a choice to trust Him or not (have a look at http://thebibleproject.com) . In the end, everyone's going to get what they want (if you want Jesus Christ you get him, if you don't you won't). That's why for my Dad and I, we both had to be convinced that the Bible was not simply human in origin.

Whatever your view, I can only speak to my own experience. The loss of my mom September 1st, 2015 to double-hit lymphoma was very, very painful (she was 68). But in the midst of the pain was a hope and peace as explained in Philippians 4:4-9 (http://bit.ly/phil4_4-9). Then, unexpectedly 120 days later, my dad died from lung cancer (age 72), leaving my brothers and sisters and I with a property and 47 years of marriage and memories for us to sort through and deal with.

We are all going to die. The question is not if but when. To put off the discussion about what happens after you die is to deny reality itself, and telling others not to have that discussion or that their position is stupid or foolish is really dumb. Oh, and in case you think the Christian message is foolish, the Bible agrees with you that it is http://bit.ly/1cor1_18-25

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In addition to unwarranted positivity, unwanted diet advice, and alternative medicine suggestions, I'd add one more to his list of "creatures skulking about": unwanted religious messages. As a non-Christian, if I were dying of cancer I'd really want to not spend my remaining time hearing about stuff like this. If it works for you, great, but to others who aren't sold on it, it comes off as univited at best and rude or offensive at worst.
I'm sorry you lost both your parents in a short period. That is hard.

Presenting a religious message like this is off-topic on HN, though, and bound to get people's backs up.

It is relevant to the original post. I know it was risky to share, but being able to make sense of life and death is something we will all face.

I used to be a nihilist. I kept asking the same two-word question: then what? Take every hope and dream you have right now, and ask yourself "once I achieve this, then what?"

I have the answers I was seeking, and it actually isn't religion. It is relationship. Religion is actually just "to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world."

Besides, I'm used to getting people's backs up. Vim is the greatest text editor ever :)

You're really in the wrong place if you think this is going to go down well. You might want to give the guy some respect and not espouse religious views here.