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by incanus77
3590 days ago
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Similar experience here. My otherwise perfectly healthy, vegan, athletic wife died of sporadic metastatic pancreatic cancer four months ago at age 36. She battled it for five months after discovery (this is how pancreatic cancer often works), and although it was an incredibly tough struggle, the fact that we both had lived with no regrets and taken the opportunities available to us (and made some new ones) helped when her time finally came. Although she was very ill the whole time, everything "at the end" happened inside of about four days. I didn't know until hours before that it actually was the end, and I'm not sure she ever did. But having lived well until that point somehow made it easier. We knew it was terminal almost immediately from the outset, with a prognosis of a year if we were lucky, and we fought it with guns blazing the whole way while balancing a good quality of life during those months. In some small way, the duration of her fight was a blessing compared to some other cases I've heard (less than a month from diagnosis to death, or a terrible quality of life for a year or two). Just as with my grieving now, everyone's handling of their own and their loved ones' preparedness for death is different and based on their own unique circumstances. I am glad that Pieter has shared his. |
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