[robertwiblin]

The evidence from postiive psychology is clear that pursuing a goal greater than yourself (that is, trying to help others) is associated with higher levels of happiness and fulfillment, so it's sensible to follow that path even if you are purely selfish: https://80000hours.org/career-guide/job-satisfaction

[nononosisisi]

I guess everybody is different. Having anybody depend on me makes me feel depressed. The only thing that truly makes me happy is working on my own projects. Anything that seriously distracts me from doing this is my enemy. I'm ok with spending a small percentage of my time with family but more than that and I will probably fall into deep a depression followed by a really angry backlash from me. Which is why I will probably never have a family. I don't think I can dedicate them the time they deserve.

[f0rfun]

To this I say, we simply love ourselves more than we love others and you don't have to beat yourself up on that.

Somewhere, there's someone that loves you enough to accept you for this. ;) Everyone needs family, even Bruce Wayne and Clark Kent.

[randomsearch]

You could try finding a partner that feels the same, someone that also values their free time and persona space. You may find their support actually helps you focus even more.

[cableshaft]

Found that person. We can both be working on our own things in the same room, no problems. And spending time with her keeps me more on task and less distracted by all the shiny things on the internet.

[ionised]

You're certainly not alone in this regard.