| The problem with calling out 'jerks, bozos and assholes' is contextual -- social norms/what works in NYC is quite different from small-town Indiana for example. Two ways to handle someone you think is being a 'jerk/bozo/asshole':
1) what percentage of their behavior is 'bad behavior'?
2) what is my threshold percentage for what I personally consider bad behavior? After I got married and witnessed PMS in action, the proportion good/proportion bad became essential. The same is true at work. And there is no OBJECTIVELY jerk/bozo/asshole behavior.
What you think is jerk/bozo/asshole may not even CHART with what your boss, friend, family member think is jerk/bozo/asshole behavior. If I hire a sales guy who blows away the next 10 sales guys but 25% of the time he is reported to be a jerk/bozo/asshole I'm NOT firing him/her. This is life and people have different psychological makeups and histories. If you're going to set your "tolerance level" for bad behavior to, say -- 5%? 10%? at home, or in the workplace -- you'll meet highly effective people who add value to relationships and businesses who will make you unhappy. They're out there. "For better or worse."
"Take the good with the bad."
"Lighten up Francis." |
Sure.
> "For better or worse." "Take the good with the bad." "Lighten up Francis."
That depends on what you want out of life. Leaving money on the table for the sake of happiness is perfectly reasonable too.