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But if there are no good providers

Mail is the lingua franca of the Internet. There are many, many alternatives to just getting an account with one of the handful of well-known huge providers and being locked in to whatever they want to do to you afterwards.

Just about any ISP will provide the necessary servers to send and receive electronic mail.

Plenty of hosting services will let you keep your own mail store in a remote, always-on location.

Either of these also works fine with your own domain with any decent provider, and either costs a modest amount to run for something so important and useful.

If you are limiting your options to a specific type of webmail service then of course you're going to be stuck with whatever downsides that comes with, but that's far from your only option.