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> maybe the societal pressure for women is immense.

It is. I think feminism left our culture with the belief that it is OK for a woman to opt in to do anything she wants. But we didn't also get the message that it's OK to opt out.

Want a career? Great! Want to raise kids? Great!

Want to not have a career? Bad! Want to not raise kids? Bad!

It's unfair. I've watched almost every single woman I know in my age bracket (late thirties today) struggle with this dilemma in her life at some point. Instead of feeling that they can do anything, they feel they have to do everything.