[nostrademons]

When I was growing up, my dad stayed home to take care of us and my mom worked. And he eventually felt devalued by the rest of society, socially isolated, and (as we grew up and needed him less) missing a sense of purpose and accomplishment.

I think it's an individual thing. Healthy boundaries are a good thing to have regardless of gender. It's important to learn not to give up things that are important to you regardless of the messages society sends, and that if society has a problem with that, that's society's problem and not yours. Society is pretty big, after all, and there's bound to be some portion of it that will accept your well-considered choices.