Considering that the biggest factor for turning a startup into a massive success is luck, I find that sentiment delusory.
The best you can do is to accept that you're not an expert in picking winners. (Just see how many hedge fund managers underperform the market. Even the supposed experts have problems doing any better than random decisions.)
You have no control unless you are part of the core management team and even then you don't have very much. Startup options really are a lottery, and just because other people sometimes win doesn't mean you can actually count on getting there yourself.
The best you can do is to accept that you're not an expert in picking winners. (Just see how many hedge fund managers underperform the market. Even the supposed experts have problems doing any better than random decisions.)