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This is certainly a big issue. In the comments, I see of course how it's so vital for all of us, and yet our problems and our advice...varies because we're all different and it's hard to express what we are and what we love in two paragraphs. We can't help but talk past each other somewhat with strangers.

Maybe what is best to take away from advice is less the specifics and more to take heart that others want to communicate and share and help.

For my part, I'll say that "work" as such is not the place to seek meaning unless...unless it's right there for you, isn't hurting anything or anyone, etc.