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> I think she blogged about this because it's a very small incident, but it had a very powerful effect on her.

If it's a very small incident, why is it such a big deal for her? Especially compared to the real harrassment by her mentor in the car?

> Over time this began to really bother me simply because of how small and benign it should have been.

Well, did you ask your coworker why she did that? Being an adult also means standing up for yourself (it doesn't have to be overly confrontational, just ask politely), especially since it apparently was just a single person, not bullying by your entire team.

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When you reframe it, what she experienced with the TV is minor - but I'm saying the bigger issues seem even more serious when you deal with minor stuff too? It's like if you forgot to do a chore and you stub your toe while doing that chore?

As a followup to the thing I went through: I did confront my coworker. I spent a few weeks feeling like I couldn't bring it up because it's so small. This particular lady had always treated me funny so I didn't expect the conversation to go well. She said this was how they did it at her house (separating mugs) and I shouldn't care about it. I was the only dude on the staff so it just felt like I was being isolated from the group with mugs! I felt immature for even bringing it up. She stopped doing it for a while but when she switched shifts I'd get in the next day and see she'd done it again... it still makes me irrationally angry.

Now I just don't drink coffee, haha. XD

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Just to mess with here, I would move my mug back to the group and take her mug out and place it by itself. ;)