[adrianwaj]

Sounds like he betrayed you - took your loyalty for granted, or rather something he could use to his advantage. You have to be sensitive to ill-will. I can be nice to you for 2 years, but something then flips for 2 seconds and all those niceties came at a price. (well not me, but that's the line of thinking) Bait-and-switch, fineprint insertions, backoffice fraud can all happen in a moment, have lasting consequences and be basically irreversible within what would otherwise be a solid relationship. On the other hand, a relationship can be rocky but trust-worthy. Smooth-talking, flattery, over-attention: anything that boosts the ego will eventually come at a price, the question is what and when. It happens in families.