[mklg1266]

I hate being a 20-something women. Everybody on the planet, from doctors to HN, feels the need to comment on the apparently glaring biological clock ticking over my head, and make assumptions about A) my happiness and B) my nefarious ulterior dating motives.

I will posit that there exist women who don't base their self-worth and happiness entirely on the approval and acceptance of a man. I will further posit that there are women who aren't married by 30 because they haven't met someone they want to marry yet and are totally OK with that.

Later first marriages are more likely to last anyway.

(And do men really want to be settled for? Like "sure I'll marry you; you're not totally horrible"?)

[owinebarger]

I thought the obsession with the clock and nefarious ulterior dating motives didn't start until 30-something.

Now that you mention it, though, when did marriage and children become either nefarious or ulterior reasons for dating?

[arojahn]

I'm a female entrepreneur aged 32, happily unmarried. Yes, there are women out there 'who aren't married by 30 because they haven't met someone they want to marry yet and are totally OK with that.' - I'm one of them. But this kind of article is the reason why it's sometimes hard - because no-one will ever believe you if you claim that you are not set on getting married and you're not keen on having kids. I've even heard the theory that I founded two startups because I didn't find the right guy to marry and have kids with.

[alnayyir]

>heard the theory that I founded two startups because I didn't find the right guy to marry and have kids with.

I generally flinch in the presence of feminist rhetoric (not saying that you were engaging in rhetoric, demonstrating my leaning), but that is crass and offensive. Why can't people just do what works for them?

Yeeeesh.

[Tichy]

"aren't married by 30 because they haven't met someone they want to marry yet"

It seems to become more difficult with age, though. Easy for you to be annoyed, if you are still in your twenties. What if you are 40? A lot of things will look different by then, I think so much is safe to assume.