| > Over the weekend, he sent some messages that were inappropriate ... on Whatsapp So, not during working hours, not using work-related tools, he send some inappropriate messages. It's not a big deal. > these things aren't acceptable in the company we're building. Sure. But this conversation did not happen in the company, not during work hours, and not using work tools. You were made privy of a very personal conversation happening between adults outside of work. > The employee came to me in confidence And you posted about it in great detail on Hacker News, making it a topic of water cooler conversation of about 80% of startups world-wide. > she'll know and it will be a violation of the trust she placed in me Exactly. > So what do I do HN? Preferably nothing at all. Don't make a big deal about what your employees do in their spare time. > she shouldn't have to deal with it She shouldn't have confided in you, because you can't seem to handle it. This dude is poison now. He may as well be fired. And your employee made it a business issue, which is a big thorny issue. You shouldn't have to deal with it, but now you do. Good luck! |