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> There's none of the mystery and personal discovery that creates the bonds of friendship. It's not real friendship.

It's up to us to define what friendship we consider real or not. Personally I find mystery an unpleasant waste of time.

> It's like being a super fan to an amateur musician - a one way street with occasional responses.

Huh? There's no asymmetry if you're both using Facebook.

> If you don't maintain some link then they should be resigned to the past - until some event occurs to trigger a re-established connection.

Screw your "should". Plenty of times I've found out via Facebook that someone was going to an event near me, or just had a common interest, and met up with them as a result. And that's been fun.