[alashley]

Also, you don't need to go about changing yourself to match someone's arbitrary ideals. If you keep trying to change things about yourself in response to what people say, you'll never be happy and you'll never run out of people to try to please.

As another posted mentioned, some of these cheap, generic insults like "you're not enough of $x" are absolutely baseless and shortsighted. A lot of them are based on preconceived notions that this person holds for reasons unknown to even them.

I think the important thing is to know who you are and find people who appreciate what it is that you bring to the table. Try to to get stuck on casual insults, move on and keep dating/meeting people. The only thing worth working towards in life is becoming an increasingly considerate human being.