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That's the idea -- that society is rigid whereas this one is open. Some people can't handle the openness, they just want somewhere to fit into.

Setting aside predictable culture clash, the fundamental issue is misaligned standards and expectations. Some communities need strong male leaders that everybody can orbit around, and there are none. They're all just trying to help people get by when there's more to life than just surviving -- it's about wanting more.