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by bpchaps 3708 days ago
I don't mean to come off too harshly. Yes, I'm frustrated, but I think it's justified. From personal experience and from tons of psychology research, talking how you're talking in that post and what I'm assuming your book is about, is how you mentally settle to a point that limits what you can do. You put yourself in a closed box by thinking this way, and you should do your damnedest to avoid it.

It took a hard breakup, a motorcycle accident, getting fired and a long due out-of-continent vacation within a two month period of time to get me to realize it. And also a similarly angry person.

A year ago, I considered myself a completely useless pile of shit. Last week, for the first time, somebody called me their 'hero' for acting to help others using passion and persistence, rather than just talking about it. It's a strange and almost overwhelming thing to hear. If I'd settled, I wouldn't have been able to get to where I am now.

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Strangely co-incidental. I'm currently going through a divorce myself. Add to that a voluntary sabbatical from work that I quit last year because I hated getting into the comfort zone. Since then I've been spending a lot of time alone, trying to do different things, and of course writing what made sense to me. This book was not even planned for when I first started writing to be honest and yes, I strongly agree on not putting any limits on who we can or want to be because of a certain personality type or a test. I just believed that the reason I wasn't able to choose "one" thing to pursue in life was because I shied away from making that commitment to excelling in one thing. In my book, I'm only trying to convey that it's important to understand the pros and cons of our choices in life on who we want to be, since it's easy to get carried away by the lure of Entrepreneurship or life-hacking. I did try both and I hated it. I now know that I would never enjoy pursuing either of those paths and would be happier by simply writing and following my curiosity.
Fair enough! It sounds like you're definitely on an awesome track in the right direction and very similar to the one I'm going down. It's... uh.. dynamic, eh?

And again.. sorry if I sounded too harsh there. My gears get ground up pretty easily on this subject considering it's something that hits so close to home.

Best of luck. :)

Thanks and totally understand! :) Wishing more heroic moments for you in life! I wish I could be someone's hero! haha.. Great going! :)