[TeMPOraL]

We have a solution for that already - it's called "divorce". But this is a very bad example overall, because there's insane amount of complexity hiding under the phrase "doesn't love". Love is a very complicated amalgamate of emotions that routinely escapes comprehension of otherwise healthy people. What do you mean she "doesn't love" her husband - did the relationship between them dried out? Did she get bored? Did they marry on emotional high with no stronger bond being formed between them? Maybe the husband is abusive?

To solve that seemingly simple example case one needs to inspect the exact reasons for the problem. And hell, for some of the particular issues there may even be a pill and I'd be totally happy about it.

[smegel]

> We have a solution for that already - it's called "divorce".

And we can't extrapolate that to "just change the things in your life that are making you unhappy", because?

I understand there are some life circumstances that are difficult to change or rectify. And that sometimes medication might help people cope with difficulties in their life. But let's not pretend that is about mental illness - these people are healthy, their symptoms of depression are a healthy response to negative circumstances - and medication in this case is a palliative aid, not a cure to a disease or malfunction.

[TeMPOraL]

> And we can't extrapolate that to "just change the things in your life that are making you unhappy", because?

Oh we can and we do. If you go to the doctor and say, "I'm unhappy because I am doing X", he'll say you should stop doing X. But those clear-cut issues are the type people tend to solve themselves. You don't go to psychiatrist to ask if maybe you need a divorce. You just get a divorce.

Going back to depression - sometimes it's very hard to tell whether something is a healthy response to negative circumstances. The mental pain tends to interfere with your ability to perceive its cause. So it may be a healthy response, or an amplified response, or it may be a good response to wrong signals, or your brain may just be broken. There are special treatments for the last case, but for the former cases getting an entry-level antidepressant is often enough to help you figure out what's going on (with or without guidance of psychologists).

And even in the cases where you have a healthy response to negative circumstances, people who end up taking pills don't take them because they're too lazy to change the circumstances, but because changing circumstances is an impractical option. If it weren't, they'd have already changed them.

[superuser2]

What is suicide if not the ultimate malfunction of a person as a system? Under what twisted definition of health can something which causes death be considered healthy when there is just a sliver less of it?

We might consider emotional pain "working as intended" when it alerts its victim to a problem and motivates them to fix it.

When they cannot identify the problem, or it is beyond their (suppressed by pain) power to fix, then the pain is no longer working as intended but is going to have some other effect, such as long-term suffering and death. At that point the alert system is itself a problem.

If Nagios wakes you up in the middle of the night to tell you a server's disk is nearly full, great, fix that server. If Nagios sends a few hundred billion alerts a second about this fact causing DoS on your entire network, yes you still need to fix that disk usage, but shut Nagios up first.