[mentat]

> A man cannot go become a CEO if he's broke and needs to feed his family

Your biases are showing. But really, I'm not sure what you're saying here. People living in partnership with others can raise children AND do other things. This is not "having it all", this is working hard to make your life what you want it to be.

[NTDF9]

> Your biases are showing.

- As much as we want it, a man can never become pregnant. The woman will have to do the pregnancy part.

- As much as we want it, a pregnant woman can never work at her optimal. The man will have to do the optimal working part.

So, if the partnership desires a kid, it means pregnancy for the woman and for the man to provide stability in those times.

Is this a personal bias or reality?

[jkestner]

As much as we want it, a man can never understand how ignorant he sounds explaining pregnancy in the abstract.

Pregnancy is one of many factors that play into your idea of "optimal" performance, alongside experience, intelligence, drive, etc. My wife did a lot of physically demanding labor and was more effective at her job than many non-pregnant coworkers right up to the day before she gave birth.

[jackweirdy]

What is "Optimal Working" and why should we believe that anyone is doing it at the moment? I think you're chasing some fantasy perfection state that isn't really achievable

[NTDF9]

Here's an experiment:

Person A: A 6 ft man

Person B: A 5 ft man

In basketball, even if person B trains for 23 hours/day more than person A, he is impeded because of his height.

Is there a guarantee that person A will do better JUST because of his height? No

Is there a guarantee that person B will do better JUST because of more hours invested in training? No

But person A can train and become better whereas person B cannot change anything.

Such is the nature of physical differences.

Person B would be better served playing a sport that doesn't require height...aka, Basketball is not "Optimal" for person B.