[mathattack]

IMHO....

You are not being treated and trusted as a co-founder, you're being treated and trusted as a hired CTO. You can choose to accept this, or not.

If you're going to accept it, you have to be the one to close the gap. In situation like this, you have to make the time to show plans that demonstrate what you're doing, and the time required for each. It doesn't need to be a fancy planning tool - just a Google sheet listing the item, the estimated work effort, the deadline, and any dependencies. The blocks of time should be less than 40 hours each - even below 8 if you can get them there. Then be fully transparent about your progress. When new work gets added, ask what drops. If you have ad-hoc support tasks, add them to the log. This may add 30 minutes to each day, but it will save you more than than in aggravation.

If you choose not to accept it, the market is still good for solid engineers. You can find a job that pays more and allows you to see your kid. (Are you crazy working 100 hours when you have a baby? The divorce will take away all your equity! And besides, you'll have to work more on-site if this thing actually grows.)

[stuckFounder]

We have alot of tools to show off my progress (I've mentioned elsewhere in the thread), none of it seems to resonate. Basically facts don't resonate, and this seems like a "soft" skill issue.

Because of our baby, i'm often up at crazy hours, the guys joke regularly about my 4am Slack comments on the business and that I must not sleep at all. This makes it even more baffling that my commitment is being questioned.

[mathattack]

Why stay?

[stuckFounder]

I think its a great business opportunity. Happy to put up with endless BS if it makes alot of money.

[mathattack]

For better or worse this sets you up for a lot of pain over life. If it's all about putting up with BS to make money, go work for an investment bank, hedge fund or High Frequency Trading firm. :-)