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by ninjaroar 3756 days ago
Can anyone comment on the dating scene for heterosexual males in SF vs London? I've been considering moving to SF, but the male-female ratio makes me think dating will be hard and I do want to find someone to settle down with at some point...
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orthoganol 3756 days ago
London wins, it's 10 x population. SF has a lot of very impressive, well credentialed guys you're competing with, in a relatively small pool. If you're also "impressive" you might do well, but if you're just another programmer or finance guy, or wannapreneur good luck. I know a lot of girls who have told me how impressive the dating pool is in SF. Throwing PC to the wind: You'll find someone but you'll probably take a downgrade in attractiveness and will have less options overall. That said, there's a ton of really cool people here, probably in greater concentration than any world city.

If you like Asian girls, you are in the right city. From where I'm coming from, NYC is the ultimate city for dating in the US for heterosexual men. Ignore the self-proclaimed PUA guy. They exaggerate because their identities are so tied to it, and they sink an exorbitant amount of time and mindshare, unless they are exceptionally charming/ good looking/ have really good jobs, in which case they shouldn't apply their standards or expectations to others so casually.

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Swizec 3756 days ago
I did the whole PUA thing for a while in SF. If you want to, going on 3 to 4 dates per week is doable, 2 per week is easy. Everyone is also very sex positive so getting laid regularly isn't hard either.

After a few months of that I wound up liking a girl enough for more than a first date. We were sort of living together within 3 months of meeting.

That last part happens fast in SF because rent is high and sharing rent helps.

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SpeakMouthWords 3756 days ago
>PUA

I'm assuming the person you're relying to is excluding borderline megalomania from their calculations.

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Swizec 3756 days ago
My point was that if you want to, meeting a lot of women is not hard. Young people in SF date a lot.

If anything, the hard part is finding someone who is willing to commit. Granted, I have a skewed sample because of how I met people, but most of my friends are facing that issue. Easy to date, hard to relationship.

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