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That's a good explanation, especially wrt intelligence being linked to identity. When I was growing up, I was used to being the smartest person in the room, but there was no "thrill of the battle" for me - it just kinda sucked. I grew up able to put that aside, cover it up really well, because nobody likes a know-it-all (like nefitty said in the other comment.) Now that I'm nominally grown, and probably well-adjusted, it's awesome to see people's faces when I break out with brains blazing every once in a while.