[pascalmahe]

I have the same general experience with my wife: we've learned to communicate and it's a skill that needs to be practiced on both sides. Otherwise, especially if we're tired or emotionally worn out, we each speak "clearly" but the other doesn't understand. Now we know that I must ask for clarification (even when there doesn't seem to need one) and she mustn't think I'm making fun of her or deliberately wasting her time. If we don't, we end up fighting because "all the clothes can go in the dryer" actually means I should still check.