[markmontymark]

You are filled with what emotions when you:

- donate - after talking to a friend you realize you have something you don't want you can give them - talk to a neighbor and realize you can clear out space in a garage or house or shed by giving them something - just throw something in an alley and someone comes by within the hour and happily loads it up in a truck for use or selling elsewhere

Sorry if you can't see the positive in the effort expended.

Yes, I should not assume much about you. I am optimistic that people don't feel WORSE during the act of giving.

[philh]

That's not the point. If I want to do good, I can choose to do good. I don't want someone else choosing how I do good. If those things are positive, if I feel good about them, then I can do them, whether or not someone has given me a gift I don't want.

[markmontymark]

My "spare me" could really have been summarized as "1st world problems". Giving stuff away to needy trumps my own personal feelings of "obligated to do something with a gift given to me". Maybe I over-prioritize in my head about this kinda thing, but reading OP post about experiencing stress sounds kinda lame or just words from too young a person.

[philh]

"First world problems" is also unkind, you're dismissing someone else's feelings because you personally don't have the same problem.

The guy started a company in 1998, I'm guessing he's not what you call young.