[gizi]

> Back in the olden days, marriage was a rational business ...

It still is for 80% of the world population.

> We are still traumatised by this.

I don't think that 80% of the world population would be traumatized. Arranged marriages work absolutely fine. It is rather the alternative that is in doubt.

[aaroninsf]

Agreed... ITT there is a good amount of presumption that the natural and appropriate motivation for decisions is personal actualization and short horizon victory.

E.g. contention that it's so good to be single today, why would you even consider getting married?

The answer to those in a prolonged adolescence with such a view is: because there may be more to life than yourself. The first thing that changes when you _have kids_ is that you should no longer be your own top priority.

Thank god neurobiology forces reorganization of imperatives as much as it does...! :)