[lakesta]

Seems like the biggest thing of all is forgotten here - people change. Even if you marry the right person, they won't be that same person a year out and you won't be either so it doesn't really matter who you married or who you were when you married. Sure there are some people who are really really wrong for one another but outside of that, everyone is going to "marry the wrong person". If they're not the wrong person when you marry them, just wait longer. There's a book that covers this as well as a lot of other misnomers on marriage and how to work through them, http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0054TVVPK