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by kazinator 3772 days ago
There is "wrong person for you" and "wrong person for anyone". The latter, you must avoid at all costs.
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My grandparents met when they were both engaged to other people. The story goes that my grandfather came home that day and told his fiancee that: "I met another woman and while I do not know if she is the right one I have learned that you are the wrong one". He ended up marrying that woman he met that day and living happily together for more than sixty years. The fiancee found someone else and lived happily as well.

I don't think it matters much if someone is the wrong person for anyone. They are just as dangerous as the wrong person for yourself. If you are allergic to cats or peanuts who cares that other people enjoy them?

> They are just as dangerous as the wrong person for yourself.

Sure. Remember these words when someone drains your life savings to pay for a cocaine habit. :)

If you're able to see through people a mile away and completely avoid getting mixed up with ones who are either wrong or just wrong for you, then it doesn't make a difference.

What's the difference? If he/she is wrong for you, who cares if he/she isn't right for someone else?

Very little consolation (if any) if he/she turns out to be the right person for someone else.

What's the difference? Hmm, perhaps a car analogy. "Wrong car for you" might be a two-seater sporty thing, and you have five kids. "Wrong car for anyone" has brakes that suddenly stop working.
My ex wife was a Volvo station wagon whose brakes stopped working.
You can have a grown-up, amicable breakup with the wrong person for you.

The wrong person for anyone will destroy your life.

In fact, the first thought I had on the matter is it's actually a little depressing if he/she turned out to be the right person for someone else and yet the two mistaken people suffered together for some number of years that could have been bliss with someone else.