[jazzyk]

Off-topic, but why is attention from "fat chicks and gays" undesirable? I personally do not discriminate when someone compliments me - it does not necessarily mean they want to have sex with me and even if they do, so what?

It is nice to be appreciated (especially since happens less and less often as you age :-))

[Grishnakh]

Well, what sucks is when you only get attention from groups that you have no interest in, and the people you are interested in seem to have no interest in you.

In a way, getting the interest from the undesirable people makes it even worse, because you're seeing the difference. If everyone ignored you, it wouldn't seem as bad I think. But if you're a straight dude, and you can't get a date to save your life, but gay men are constantly hitting on you, that's not going to do much for your self-esteem, it's going to make you question why you only seem to appeal to them.