[balls187]

> Males generally dont marry up?

My wife has a PhD, and is a Senior Data Scientist (why not Chief, who knows), and belongs to a noble Swedish/Finnish family.

I am P.O.C. trash, from a (mostly) poor town in S Tacoma, WA.

I hit the jackpot.

> Unfortunately, their standards have really gone up since receiving said education. I'm not saying this to bash, it's simply my observation.

I suspect that part of it has to do with the circles you hang out in. If you are a non-professional man, you are less likely to interact with professional women. If you do, you will have more chance to pair-wise bond. Anecdotally, a guy I train Krav Maga with, works at the maintenance crew at a local hotel. His wife has a degree in Aerospace Engineering. They met at a gym.

[galfarragem]

In marriage intelligence is more important than status. Men normally don't want to marry a smarter woman then them and the opposite on women. 1600 karma gives you some relationship potential and places you above trash..

[random_upvoter]

> Men normally don't want to marry a smarter woman then them

Maybe that's true for a certain type of man suffering from insecurity.

In general I find that men love to find a woman who is smart and practical. After all, this is about your life partner.

[EGreg]

Height for men is like weight for women. Women want taller and men want lighter.

Money for men is like looks for women. Men want a wife with good looks and women want a successful man.

Intelligence for men is like likability for women. I think there are a lot of parallels.

[Mz]

Height for men is like weight for women. Women want taller and men want lighter.

No no no no no. Height for men is like age for women. A woman can lose weight if she wants a particular man, but, just like men cannot make themselves taller, women cannot make themselves younger.

Also, some men like a BBW. I suspect this is much more common than women who actively prefer short men. (I have been a BBW. Some men really, really like that.)

[galfarragem]

Deal breakers: intelligence level very far from mine, politics and ethics very far from mine.

Turn offs: taller then me, under average looks, older then me, personal life more complicated than mine.

Edited -- male point of view for a potential wife

[thaumasiotes]

> 1600 karma gives you some relationship potential and places you above trash.

First time I've heard that spending more of your time posting comments to the internet raises your dating potential. Karma comes from comments. More comments, more karma.

[andromeduck]

I'm not sure that's true, most of my close male friends prefer smart women but generally not in the same exact area as them.

I personally think having slightly divergent competencies is more stable than closwrr matches since it'd be less competitive or directly comparable.

Learning is also fun, and it can drive some pretty cool conversations.

[throwaway98732]

Bit of anecdote to back this up, I personally wouldn't like to date a woman smarter than I am. I want her to be smart, just not quiiite as much.

Guess I'm just insecure.

[djcapelis]

> 1600 karma gives you some relationship potential and places you above trash.

I think you might be valuing people rather strangely, don't you think?

[re_todd]

S Tacoma, wow, she must be a saint :)

[adenadel]

Parkland?

[balls187]

Yes. Though I often times claim Spanaway, since I attended Spanaway Elem, Spanaway Jr High, and Spanaway Lake Highschools.

[adenadel]

I'm pretty fond of Parkland and Spanaway. I went to PLU.

[balls187]

Nice. Growing up, I loved going swimming at the PLU pool.

Also it's a small world when an HN reader that attended college in the small town I grew up in, would find my comment and correctly guess that small town.

[is_it_worth_it_]

is she hot? men dont value women as much for professional achievements...

[balls187]

Yes.

https://www.google.com/search?q=beauty+is+in+the+eye+of+the+...

Also it took me a good solid year of my A-game to win her over.