[alexashka]

If you're dragging the team down, you are either oblivious to how you're being difficult or you know you are and you think you're in the right.

Thinking you're in the right - that's when you need to eat some humble pie and recognize aggravating people is almost never a good idea. If you are in a do or die situation, sure, hurt some feelings. Otherwise, it is not going to work out for you or them long term. Long term, people want to be happy. If you're preventing that, you're the biggest problem in their life :)

If you're oblivious - then... There is no answer, you'll simply learn through the hard knocks of life.

I was being difficult once - in hindsight, people do the best they can and if the circumstances you're in can only result in a shitty product getting shipped unless you put in heroic efforts, opt for the shitty product. It's like 'the wire' (great hbo show) - when the system is broken, the one trying to do the right thing is going to get squashed.