[confused_cto]

unless I prompt it, every decision gets evaluated over and over, things that I could decide on a dime (like going all in, or who to bring on in partnership) have to take weeks to decide and then revisit over and over. We get direct feedback from VC's saying "we want to see a plan for x, y and z" and this somehow turns into us changing three things no one mentioned... Its like he is unable to make a choice and then turn that choice into action... I suppose other than venting my real question is this: I have told CEO guy that he has to decide between "thing" and "day job" or we need to part ways. am I being precious or is this the right call?

[confused_cto]

Should probably mention that when forced his plan was "to initially drop to 80% day job and 20% thing and see how it goes for a few months, and go all in once funded". I see this as a vote of no confidence and a lack of passion?

[hanniabu]

The difference in actions between him being skeptical and having no passion is very thin to people like us on the outside that aren't experiencing this first hand. Both case would opt for not fully committing. The answer will be in the details, such as his wording when talking about certain subjects, his mood and expressions when brainstorming and discussing different aspects of the project. Maybe it's a little of both. The point is, it is pretty much impossible for us to tell whether it's lack of passion or lack of confidence that's keeping him from taking that leap of faith.

As far as how you should go about handling the situation, I'm afraid I can't offer too much help as I do not have any experience in this situation. However, I do not think it's unreasonable for you to be pressuring him to call your raise and carry his own weight. The best advice I can suggest is to probably straight up talk to him and explain your concerns. After all, you guys are founding a company together, so you should be able to have discussions such as these as if it's your spouse.

Good luck mate