[rsanders]

Sex isn't just a biological impulse. Many couples feel that it's important to their bond. One might respond more reductively with "why does the biological need for oxytocin to maintain intimacy get a pass" or somesuch, but the fact is that sex is never something that our evolution needed to control or limit. Having some sex is absolutely necessary for the species to survive. You're comparing that with maladaptive behaviors, whereas it's the exact opposite. You might as well expect people not to eat at all.

[Karunamon]

Reproducing when the result will end up in a damaged child, or one you can't support, isn't maladaptive?

This is what I mean - we can obviously prioritize our needs and put a lid on biological drives when social needs demand for, pretty much everything else. Why is it so strange to expect that same restraint when it comes to sex?

[bobthechef]

You must realize how ridiculous your post is. Sex can and does play a role in intimacy, but we do possess brains that can prioritize goods and sacrifice the lesser ones for the greater ones when necessary. It may requires work and habit formation, and some suffering, but it's possible. If all that is keeping your relationship together is sex, then you have larger issues you must address. The rest you've written is just woo.