[inanutshellus]

Sounds like the girls are getting too much attention, and so are passively enjoying swatting flies more than enjoying the hunt for a match.

Actually answering questions takes a lot of effort when you're responding to 25 people in parallel. That you're even getting /any/ response is a testament to you, given that you're 41 and yet not looking for a "mom".

Anyway... As someone else suggested, it sounds like you need to get these girls out of the email-back-n-forth as fast as possible. e.g. "Hi, I see we have X in common. Want to meet up tomorrow for lunch?"

[newday]

I agree, I have have 3 coffee dates lined up this week after taking that approach on Sunday.