[eseehausen]

That depends on your initial assumptions, which you can shape over time (though you may not want to or find it advantageous to do so).

[jsprogrammer]

Yes, you could engage in a conversation with the individual to better understand their situation. However, in the scenario presented:

>some times people are having a really bad day for reasons you can't see and a little bit of empathy goes a long way

I don't see how you can have much empathy. Patience, yes. Compassion, yes. Full sharing of feelings, no, purely by the description of the scenario.

[dsp1234]

This is just a case where the person said empathy, but meant sympathy. It's a common mistake to make.

[dktbs]

This seems like a good example of this article posted yesterday: https://pchiusano.github.io/2014-10-11/defensive-writing.htm...

[jsprogrammer]

I'm not sure sympathy is quite the right word either. Pitying someone is not very productive; I typically find it quite patronizing.

[dsp1234]

'Pity and sorrow' is one of the definitions of the word sympathy, but that's not the meaning generally implied when used in comparison to empathy.

"Sympathy (from the Greek words syn "together" and pathos "feeling" which means "fellow-feeling") is the perception, understanding, and reaction to the distress or need of another human being."[0]

"When you sympathize with someone, you have compassion for that person, but you don’t necessarily feel her feelings."[1]

Generally the difference between empathy and sympathy is the internal response to the feelings of others. If you personally are feeling the same thing as the person, then that's generally empathy, otherwise it's generally sympathy.

[0] - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sympathy

[1] - http://grammarist.com/usage/empathy-sympathy/

[jsprogrammer]

    define pity

    pit·y
    ˈpidē/
    noun
    noun: pity
    1.
    the feeling of sorrow and compassion caused by the suffering and misfortunes of others.

ok...downmods it is