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by carleverett 3866 days ago
This does not fit into the "right not to be offended" issues going on today. Being exposed to pictures/videos/comments of exes getting married is not an issue that many people had to deal with 20 years ago. If the same technology that has done such a good job of connecting us with other people could be smart enough to know when not to connect us, we should absolutely take advantage of it.

In other situations, I'd agree with you. Not this one.
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toomuchtodo 3866 days ago
> Being exposed to pictures/videos/comments of exes getting married is not an issue that many people had to deal with 20 years ago.

Then be an adult FFS. Either stay friended to the person and realize that they've got their own life to live, or unfriend the person and say "Hey, I'm really sorry, I can't handle this emotionally. I wish you the best." Neither option makes you a lesser person.

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carleverett 3866 days ago
The purpose of technology is to make things easier for people, not harder. I personally haven't had problems with this and am fine using your strategy, but I still think Facebook is smart for trying to tackle an issue that clearly a lot of people have.

We can get into the debate of whether or not technology is making us worse as people (which I completely disagree with), but that's a rabbit hole. Also, I don't think technology is causing the problems you're talking about. Safe space issues, I think, are happening for two reasons:

1) This generation is very aware of inequalities between different groups of people, and wants it to stop

2) This generation was raised by parents who were too controlling of their environments

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colmvp 3866 days ago
But it's not like there aren't ways around this.

There are some exes who I don't have any feelings for whom I'm still friends on Facebook with. They posts happy pictures. I'm happy for them. I have no qualms about them moving on with their life (marrying, having children). In fact, I've attended some of their weddings.

For the ones which still hurt, I'm not friends with on Facebook. By no means was it easy to cut off all contact, whether it's Facebook, Whatsapp or Instagram, but I had to be honest with my feelings and recognize that yes, it'd make me sad if I saw them happy moving on.

And if for whatever reason I need to contact them, there's always e-mail or phone.

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