[kleer001]

For me personally the key words would be "Ignore women, accrue finances."

As much as culture tells us pair bonding is the end all be all, it's not. Outside of college your chances of finding a compatible mate reduce by 10,000% or more. Instead of actively looking and compromising keep up high standards for yourself and any potential mate. Instead of taking dozens and dozens of dates spend that time socializing and spend that money investing. Spend time to learn what you should be investing and don't trust pundits except as a barometer as to what everyone else is doing.

For OP, if you really like this question it's been asked a lot. Check reddit and youtube.

[magic_beans]

Yes, because on your death bed you'll remember fondly the growing number in your bank account.

[kleer001]

Not all. I hope to die broke, having perfectly timed my expenditures.

I joke. It's really because as I age I will be able to afford the comforts and convenience I've grown quite fond of. I will be able to take care of myself and loved ones in emergencies and afford insurance.

But in the end it answers OP's question. And since my life is different from yours I gave a different answer. If you feel my answer is inappropriate feel free to engage me in conversation and learn more about the mistakes I've made, the things I cherish, and my ethnic/cultural back ground.

[7Figures2Commas]

> It's really because as I age I will be able to afford the comforts and convenience I've grown quite fond of. I will be able to take care of myself and loved ones in emergencies and afford insurance.

You seem to be making a number of flawed assumptions here.

The first is that you will age. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. You could be hit by a truck tomorrow and die. The second is that access to the comforts and conveniences you have grown fond of are primarily a function of your finances. But your enjoyment of the comforts and conveniences you can afford is also a function of many other things, such as your health, which could be compromised at any time by things you cannot predict or control.

> If you feel my answer is inappropriate...

I think your answer is likely to evoke a strong response because it paints exploring intimate relationships and accumulating wealth as being mutually exclusive.

This flies in the face of data that suggests one of the best ways to accumulate wealth is to partner up. Marriage has been linked to wealth in numerous studies, and by some estimates, more than 90% of the millionaires in the United States are married.

Obviously, marriage motivated by financial gain is probably not advisable for most, but avoiding dating out of the belief that it will produce financial benefit is not very attractive either.

[kleer001]

Well, should OP had asked "What general advice do you have for someone in their 20's I might have taken studies and their data into account."

My advice to myself in my 20's to avoid dating is based out of how much I've fucked up, having no mentorship and poor instincts in that area. If it helps understanding.

[7Figures2Commas]

It's all about perspective. For example, if I introduced you to somebody who painfully regretted not dating in his 20s out of, say, fear of rejection or relationship failure, you might come to see your past dating experiences in a kinder if not more positive light.

[kleer001]

That sounds terribly contrived. Eventually most everyone musters up the courage to ask someone out. Petrification by fear is quite the medical condition.

[veidr]

Yep! If the thread was "advice for 20-somethings" I wouldn't have even clicked.

Advice to your own younger self is much more interesting, though.

[meta_pseudo]

In all seriousness this could be quite important, I have been avoiding relationships all my life due to heavy workload in school. Seems like patterns gonna continue considering I plan to work more :|

[kleer001]

Don't worry man, relationships will come when you least expect them. So, best thing to do is carry on with the heavy work until you reach work success. Then relax and take on hobbies you enjoy. The relationships will come, or they won't. Worrying and forcing them isn't the best strategy to allow them to grow and flourish and fruit.