| I'm not sure we disagree that much. However... The point I'm trying to make it that the cost is not the only part of the equation and that we must also account for reward and control. Cost/reward
When the female birth control pill became available the cost/value was weighted very heavily against the woman and female control was much more essential. However today the cost/value is more evenly weighted. Back then a man could deny everything and move on leaving the woman with the baby and a ruined life. Now the man can't deny everything and as a minimum will be committed to child maintenance but he may still be denied access to the child. So the situation now is: woman high cost coupled with high reward; man moderate cost and potential reward controlled by the woman. Control
Let's assume that both parties decide for themselves based on their own cost/reward situation. Let's assume that they don't always inform the other of the their decision honestly. Neither is perfect judge of character. Current situation
Scenario 1: Man wants child. Woman does not. Woman controls outcome. No child.
Scenario 2: Man doesn't want child. Woman does. Woman controls outcome. Child.
Scenario 3: Both want child. Child.
Scenario 4: Neither want child. No child. Situation with male birth control
Scenario 1: Man wants child. Woman does not. Woman controls outcome. No child.
Scenario 2: Man doesn't want child. Woman does. Man controls outcome. No child.
Scenario 3: Both want child. Child.
Scenario 4: Neither want child. No child. P.S.
Personally I think that the pill was one of the greatest drivers of women starting to have rights on a par with men (I'm not saying that 2015s western world is perfect gender equality wise but it is a lot better than the 1950s western world was). P.P.S.
I just think that men should if possible have the option to control their reproductive function and that it does not matter whether woman trusts the man -- the man's control does not affect the woman's control (except in the scenario that the woman is a deceptive actor - NB that the inverse situation where the man is a deceptive actor is already under the woman's control). |