[enraged_camel]

I think there's a difference between "pandering to" and "relating to". The former refers to artificially trying to fit into and build trust with a group, usually with an ulterior motive (e.g. you want their votes). The latter refers to the ability to take yourself out of your own "box" and make an effort to understand them and find some common ground with them.

And guess what: the attitude you demonstrated is the exact same attitude you blame young people for: you're refusing to adapt to them because they don't fit your own age-defined tastes and characteristics.