[wtbob]

> The correct way to handle it is to either find out my gender or speak as if you do not know what it is

And the correct way to do the latter, in English, is to use male pronouns. It's different in other languages, no doubt.

[aninhumer]

Using male pronouns for someone who is actually female is offputting regardless of your opinion of "correct" grammar.

There are plenty of ways to speak in a gender neutral way in English that don't involve trying to rationalise using a gender specific pronoun.

My preference is for singular "they". (It's not as clunky as "he or she", and not as confusing for the unfamiliar as "xe" or similar).

[GFK_of_xmaspast]

Singular 'they' is just as legitimate an English construction as singular 'you'.