[gregd]

Because I'm in tech and have yet to see one of these "high salaries". Nobody seems to acknowledge outside help. Does she have parents that she can always go back to live with if shit falls apart? And then there's a shit ton of "you're living beyond your means, if X isn't true for you.."

[poikniok]

Okay so now we get down to the root of your problem. You are underpaid. The 200k+ salaries are out there, it is up to you if you want to go get them.