[executesorder66]

Going through anyone's things (digital or physical) without their permission is obviously very wrong. But can I ask you what kinds of things you have on your computer/phone that you don't want you BF to see?

Edit: My girlfriend and I have permission from each other to go through each other's phones/computers etc. and as a result of that we don't feel like the other person has anything to hide, and it brings us closer to each other. I have no interest in going through my girlfriend's phone/laptop, but if she refused to let me do that it would instantly bring up red flags that she doesn't trust me and that she can't be open with me. That's not the kind of relationship I'd like to be in.

[mattlutze]

Nothing or everything, what is there shouldn't be a/the question.

Humans have a rare trait in being able to develop cyborg transparent interfaces with our tools. A hammer becomes your hand, as far as your brain is concerned, after you've used it long enough.

Phones and other technology do the same thing for our minds. The photos we snap but never review are memories we're trying to collect. Phone calls or IMs a better history of conversations we've had.

Someone else going through this technology w/o permission is like them having a way to psychically read your mind. Both are a violation of your self -- your identity, memories, what have you. It's a violation because just as we learn to use tools as physically indistinct appendages, so to do we use ways to capture our minds as indistinct appendages.

[SmellyGeekBoy]

I've had the same email account since the Gmail invite-only days, been on Facebook since 2007. If my GF wanted to look through it all with a fine tooth comb, she could, and there's nothing in there that I wouldn't want her to see. But the very fact that she felt like she had the need to look would suggest a huge failing in our relationship.