I work for an ISP. We use it (CARP and relayd) heavily for HTTP and DNS load balancing in an IPv6-laden environment. Performance is better than that we saw a few years ago under Linux.
I did not. I was more familiar with OpenBSD to begin with, and like its slant toward security. Although we do use FreeBSD for a few other servers used as NAS controllers. HAST + ZFS + CARP is great.
There's an (as far as I can tell) IPv4-only implementation for Linux in ucarp. [0] I use it for failover on my home LAN.
Question: Does OpenBSD CARP support "passwords" longer than 15 or 16 characters?
[0] http://www.pureftpd.org/project/ucarp