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by alukima 3937 days ago
Why would you think that women are looking for something to get offended about?

If I was looking for something to get offended about I wouldn't hide behind male usernames on Stackoverflow, my local user groups, Hackernews (obviously not this account) and Github to avoid conflict. I just want to be a normal part of tech communities, on and offline.

It's absurd that you can write off the large portion of women who say there's a problem because you don't want to examine you're own internal biases.

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> Why would you think that women are looking for something to get offended about?

Clearly, not all women are looking for something to be outraged about. However, there is a vocal minority that loudly takes offense at friendly gestures, like in this particular instance. That's what I take issue with.

> If I was looking for something to get offended about I wouldn't hide behind male usernames on Stackoverflow, my local user groups, Hackernews (obviously not this account) and Github to avoid conflict. I just want to be a normal part of tech communities, on and offline.

That's more of a consequence of the erosion of anonymity in the Internet, than you being a woman.

> It's absurd that you can write off the large portion of women who say there's a problem because you don't want to examine you're own internal biases.

Large portion of women according to whom? I'm not writing off anybody either, I'm asking people to critically examine a concept and judge for themselves. I think you ought to think for yourself a little bit more, onee-sama.

>That's more of a consequence of the erosion of anonymity in the Internet, than you being a woman.

No it's a consequence of men seeking out my social profiles on other sites and offering to give me "extra help". Also dick pics.

>I'm asking people to critically examine a concept and judge for themselves

That's exactly what you're being asked to do. Women in the spaces, including myself, aren't looking for things to be angry about, we are looking for acceptance and the ability to enjoy our hobbies/passions and professions in peace. Insisting that everything is just a misunderstood friendly gesture is ridiculous and part of the larger culture that make certain groups of people feel unwelcome in tech.

Could you be any more condescending?