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by wpietri 3951 days ago
For those who love the stories of people behind the scenes, it's worth digging around in the Wayback Machine for Bitter Waitress's archives. E.g.:

http://web.archive.org/web/20080917050640/http://www.bitterw...

And my favorite San Francisco story in this vein is "Ice Balls":

http://the-tusk.com/2015/01/09/ice-balls/

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I enjoyed "Ice Balls". Thank you.
Same, "Ice Balls" was a fantastic piece of writing. Thanks for sharing.
Some solid misandry here...From the article, last 2 paragraphs:

>"It turns out there are a lot of upsides to being a woman. You get to hang out with women. You >don’t have to hang out with men. You don’t have to condescend to people about things like ice. >You notice other people’s reactions to you. People consider you safe enough to tell you their >problems. You get to smile at kids you don’t know. You get to hang out with women. You get to >hang out with women. Your whole life. Between the old guys congratulating themselves for being >able to drop 700 dollars on an ounce of 40 year old scotch, or my mom getting goofy on ice wine >with her retired nurse friends, I know who’s throwing the better party. > > >The well-meaning among you might be tempted to explain to me, hey you could hang out with women >who went to women’s colleges and still get called he or they or ze or hir or you might want to >explain to me that there are so many good dudes who are transforming what it means to be a dude, >and I could join in and transform it with them. Nope. No thanks. I think estrogen is good deal. I >think this female thing is a good deal. Even with the rape and the gas-lighting and the poverty >and the shitty jobs and the sexual harassment and the doing all the housework and the watching >jokers kill the planet and the regular ice, this womanhood thing is where it’s at. Those ice >balls have melted. I’m good."

What some people do not realise is that men wouldn't do what they do with accumulating status and wealth, if women didn't reward them with sex for it.

> What some people do not realise is that men wouldn't do what they do with accumulating status and wealth, if women didn't reward them with sex for it.

That's ridiculous. It's not even true. It fails to be true in many ways: There are plenty of men who accumulate status and wealth even though they'll be having exactly the same amount of sex. There are lots of women who accumulate status and wealth, and women definitely aren't rewarding them with sex. You can in fact find plenty of people pursuing status and wealth who do so at a level where it reduces the amount of sex they get. And equally there are people of both genders who get lots of sex without much in the way of status or wealth.

But worse, it's morally vacuous to the point of being creepy. It's like saying mafia hit-men are perfectly fine people because they are just responding to commercial incentives. Nope! People are responsible for the effects of their actions. Sometimes bad actions are rewarding, which is why we have morality in the first place. If bad actions were never rewarding, they wouldn't be a problem. You can't just shrug and blame "the system" for the shitty things you do. If you do shitty things, you are the one doing them and you are to blame.