| First the business : If you really believe in what you are doing, you won't let anything stop you. Just ignore it. Now the emotions : The way you get a clean break from this emotionally is really on you to develop an emotional strategy to deal with that. One way to approach this is to revise what you make this circumstance mean. The facts are one thing, they are the __what happened__, and what you make them mean, in other words ( literally so ) your narrative about them, are another thing. Write down the what happened ( minus your interpretation and attribution of blame and feelings and judgements about it and people ). And then write down separately your interpretation of what happened ( here is where you unedited express all the ways you feel about this, all the blame you attribute to others, all the judgements you have, in short, what you make what happened mean ). So now in front of you you have your current narrative. If this narrative displeases you, it behooves you to revise it. Remember, you can choose what you make it mean. You constructed this interpretation in the first place, and if the interpretation doesn't work for you, write yourself a new one. A tip when writing your new narrative is : take responsibility for as much as possible, and blame others as little as possible, as every time you blame someone else you are giving away your feeling of power and agency to them ( by your own choice, mind ) and calling toward yourself a little more frustration that you would otherwise. Finally, an inspiring mask of a possible destination : Perhaps, whatever path you choose, you can post your journey or results here so others may benefit. The benefit to yourself in getting out of this cleanly is one element, and this story of what you did to achieve that can inspire others as well. |