I never telegraph my stress to my team members but used to often do it around my peers (managers on other teams).
Probably because I thought they could empathize so they'd be a sympathetic ear. A few complaints to the CEO about me later and now I've learned to do what the author describe. Even if the person is not someone who reports to you; just go get a coffee, take a walk, etc.
I am lucky in one regard though, Our CEO flat out told me if I need to stress out around someone do it around him. Which seems healthy and more productive then bottling it up.
Another important thing is to accept that anger is normal human reaction/emotion and not to feel guilty over being angry. Some responses to anger are bad (when your emotions blow up and you start to insult people just to get back to them or vent), but anger itself is not something shameful or bad.
For me, I tend to talk faster, raise my voice a bit, frown more, and generally behave more combatively.
So basic things like slowing down, relaxing my expressions and smiling more (even and especially when you're on the phone!!!) go a long way to not only changing how I present myself, but also changing how I feel.
Meditation. It is the practice of being present in the moment and being aware of your actions. That directly translates into "catching yourself" by requiring you think about everything you do before you do it and be aware of what you're doing in the moment.
I never telegraph my stress to my team members but used to often do it around my peers (managers on other teams).
Probably because I thought they could empathize so they'd be a sympathetic ear. A few complaints to the CEO about me later and now I've learned to do what the author describe. Even if the person is not someone who reports to you; just go get a coffee, take a walk, etc.
I am lucky in one regard though, Our CEO flat out told me if I need to stress out around someone do it around him. Which seems healthy and more productive then bottling it up.